The topic for tonight will be “Taking Care of Business”. Carl Quinsee will be our guest who is going to pose for us a few questions which will come shortly to review before the night.
Taking Care of Business
Fundamental to a mens group is the enquiry as to how you show up in the world and the opportunity to say it how it is for you in a safe and trusted environment. We live in a world of individual meaning and sharing this world allows others a perspective that may have been blind to them opening up the possibility of change. A large part of who we are is shaped by how effectively we take care of our inherent needs and the behaviour we adopt to do this.
If we are to reflect on all that we do a realisation arises that each action or behaviour is taking care of a need. If we can identify our needs we can have a greater chance of having those needs met by a possible change in our actions or behaviours. Inappropriate behaviour can simply be an attempt to get a need meet that that you have not yet worked out what that need is.
Expanding possibilities in life and taking more effective action is more than learning new skills and strategies – it is about expanding how we are as a learner, guided by what is authentic for us through the realisation of insight.
If an enquiry into showing up differently is appealing to you below are some questions to explore prior to the next meeting.
- Have you ever thought about what needs are important to you?
- What permission do you give yourself to take care of those needs?
- What changes do you need to make to take care of those needs?
- Have you any actions or behaviours that baffle you as to why you do them?
- If so what is it that you are trying to take care of?
Carl Quinsee is a certified coach, with experience in diverse backgrounds ranging from the emergency services, construction, security and personal growth industries. As a coach, Carl has worked with managers, business owners, entrepreneurs, artists, emergency service personnel and a diverse number of individuals to help them address their current concerns and therefore achieve better outcomes in their business and personal life.
He founded and operated the Avatar Wellness Centre for 10 years, a centre inspired by the ideal of assisting others in reaching their full potential. He is passionate about helping individuals and groups to work from an Ontological perspective, strengthening the ability to effectively manage the changing landscape of their personal and professional life.
In a leadership role for 25 years, Carl has a diploma in coaching, he has completed courses and certifications in Leadership, Mentoring, Ontological coaching, Peer Support, Neurolinguistic Programming, Workplace Training and Hypnotherapy.
Join us Tuesday the 10 October (held fortnightly) to share our knowledge and life journeys, offering each of us tools to take away and use in your own life…. gaining understandings about spirituality, relationships, health, vitality, sex, career, awareness….. and more.
REAL MEN? Woo Woo or Wise? When we men think of meditation, mens groups and spiritual growth, there’s a risk it will be seen as ‘woo-woo,’ or ‘flaky.’ Essentially, ‘being spiritual’ means connecting with your OWN wisdom, your OWN strength and your OWN truth. This is what we will explore in a practical and everyday way, with those of you who are interested in wanting more out of life.”
The mantra of our Gold Coast Mens Group is I am fully responsible everything I feel and I am totally accountable for everything I do .
I am doing my best to be authentic and I am doing it from the heart and I’m opening up the opportunity for us all to get together and evolve while having some laughter, fun and f-ups along the way. I’m willing to open up & stand up and risk the chance of falling and making a fool of myself. Who really cares what other people think? I don’t think I do any more.
I’m not quite sure exactly where we are going to go with this, but I have a feeling that it’s going to be good. I know that authenticity is a good place to start. I invite you to join me each month, as we map out where we are going to go on this journey of evolution. Here is my vision.
Why me and why join a men’s group now?
My life has had its extreme ups and extreme downs. I have had more than the average bear’s share of disappointments, heartaches and failure. I have thrown myself into obsessive behaviours to distract me from the pain I felt. The more I drank the harder I worked, and it never seemed to quench my sadness, or sense of wanting more.
My desire for change never really seemed to get me where I wanted to go, as it was only short lived, with new locations, new ideas, and constant movement that stopped me from dealing with the now. I deferred many tough decisions for the immediate, easy, ‘quick fix. I never knew I had a choice.
If I only knew back then what I know now – that decision making is similar to driving a car… Every turn is a choice and every choice leads us on a different road to a different destination, a different life.
When I am driving, I am conscious that every turn has its consequences… and that any wrong turn will result in immediate ramifications.
I have begun to realise it’s the same with life. Every choice has REAL ramifications. Consciously or unconsciously I realise that every ‘poor decision’ I have made comes back and haunts me for years to come until I deal with it and get back on the right road heading in the right direction.
How many of us can relate to that?
Join me on this roller coaster of a ROAD called LIFE, with its highs and lows, its joys and sorrows, in the pursuit of transformation into a happier stress free satisfying life.
Not dealing with my stress as a Street Cop and entrepreneur –How I got to Hell and Back?
As a street cop for nearly 20 years I’ve seen destruction, violence, bashings and death on a regular basis. My stress-relief of choice resided somewhere in the bottom of a Bundaberg Rum bottle. If someone had explained to me that my demeanour, sleep patterns and stress could all be improved using meditation and alternative health methods, I probably would have locked them up for being a public nuisance! By the way that’s me in the picture on the right with the moustache.
1999 Brewarrina Police Station (Back of Bourke).
After leaving the police force for private enterprise, I experienced life in the fast lane, high stress, 18 hour days, 50 staff, 100 phone calls a day. I used 6-8 coffees a day to keep me up and a minimum of two bottles of scotch a week to bring me down. I was not only in the fast lane in business, I was in the fast lane for a heart attack! Something had to change. “I know that many men shy away from meditation and conversations about REAL issues for fear of being labelled soft or airy-fairy, but I am living proof of its life saving benefits. You can be both blokey and stress free. Cameron Monley
I am now committed to bringing quality experts from the alternative health, yoga and meditation, healthy eating and wellness, and spiritual growth industries together. I have called this regular gathering of like-minded locals from the Gold Coast, ‘The Infinite Connection,’ an organisation that promotes and networks with people wanting more out of life.
Alex Vesey : I have had the pleasure of knowing cameron for over 24 years, he is loud, a big presence, high energy wicked sense of humour and brutally honest. I trust him and I trust his judgement. This phase of Camerons life is seeing Cameron put back what he has been given in his life experiences. My experience as a psychiatric Nurse has allowed my self to see many a man in emotional distress and unrest, having the option to safely visit a man cave, like being proposed by Cameron, is wonderful option to experience a safe environment to learn, grow, mature and finally look at your self as honestly as I see cameron do. “ Cant wait to sit in the cave mate”.
Statistics about Men, Stress:
• STRESSED FOR TIME – In 2007, 35% of men always or often felt rushed or pressed for time. – Australia Bureau of Statistics
• DIVORCE RATES INCREASE – At the turn of the 20th century, divorce was virtually non-existent, but by the end of the 20th century it was estimated that 32 percent of Australian marriages would end in divorce (ABS, 2000). Journal of Sociology, Vol. 41, No. 2, June 2005
• ANXIETY – Anxiety is the most common mental condition in Australia. On average, 1 in 4 people – 1 in 3 women and 1 in 5 men – will experience anxiety. There are many types of anxiety, each consisting of a range of specific symptoms. www.beyondblue.org.au
• SUPPORT GROUP BENEFITS – Being in a support group can also help you develop new skills to relate to others. In addition, the members of the group who have the same problems can support each other and may suggest new ways of dealing with a particular problem. WebMD
• The University Of Wisconsin found that experienced meditators exhibit high levels of gamma wave activity, meaning they are automatically able to control their thoughts and reactions.
• AFL Premiership Sydney Swans Coach, Paul Roos, credits meditation with Sydney’s success, citing that 90% of success happens above the shoulders.
Cameron Monley and Lyza Saint Ambrosena are committed to bringing quality experts from the alternative health, yoga, meditation, healthy eating, wellness and spiritual growth industries together and call these regular gatherings of like minded locals from both Gold Coast and Brisbane, The Infinite Connection – an organisation that promotes and networks with people wanting more out of life.
Phone Cameron on 0414714948 suggested donation is $20
Location The Holy Rood Family Centre 192 Oxenford Tamborine Road Oxenford. Cross Street is Old Tamborine Road